First of all, I’d like to say I’m not an expert in relationships. This post is my opinion on what to do when a relationship ends, and the advice is from my own personal experiences.
We’ve all been there, been in a loving relationship that we felt would last forever… and for some people it does, but what should one do when the relationship just isn’t working out? What happens when a relationship is over? and how can you get over it?
1: Delete them from social media platforms.
Deleting your ex from social media is one of the first things you should do. If you are constantly seeing posts from them, whether it be on Twitter, Facebook or other, it can be difficult to move on. You should also avoid the temptation to look at their social platforms after the breakup, because not only will you remember everything you both went through, but will see them move on with their life without you, and this can be hard to see… especially if you are taking the breakup much harder than the other person.
2: Don’t try to stay friends: Unless you really believe you can.
I made this mistake in my previous relationship. We both decided that our relationship had started to become more of a friendship than a romantic relationship and we ended it amicably. I know that I am the type of person that can stay friends with an ex. I was once in a relationship with someone who hurt me deeply, and the breakup was very difficult for me. For years I was very bitter, but as I grew as a person I decided it was time to forgive, and we are friends now. Anyway, back to my previous relationship. Even though we broke up I still cared deeply for him, and still do, but he couldn’t handle it. He stopped replying to my messages and eventually we grew apart. So for some people, staying friends works out, but I’ve noticed for the majority of people, staying friends is an impossible task. It can be hard to move on and get used to not being with their partner. However, keep your space, even if you decide to stay friends. Give yourself time to heal first.
3: Allow yourself to feel what you are feeling.
Do you feel sad? Cry. Angry? Punch a pillow. Find ways to express what you are feeling, whether it be writing a poem, or dancing along to a song – anything to make you feel better. Look after yourself and remember that break ups are always difficult. You are allowed to feel what you are feeling, and no one can tell you otherwise.
4: Meet with friends.
Once you are up to it, meet up with some close friends. They will remind you how much fun you can have without being in a relationship. They love you for you, and want you to be happy. Meeting up with friends can heal your heavy heart. Go have fun: You deserve it.
5: Take up a new hobby.
Learn an instrument. Learn to cook. Do something that makes you happy. Not only will this keep you occupied, it will help your mental health immensely. It will keep your mind off the breakup and help you heal. You’ll be glad you tried something new, and will be happy that you are trying to grow as a person, and develop a new life skill.
Remember: You are not alone and you will get over the breakup. It will take time but you will come out a stronger person in the end. You lived without them before: You can do it again. The main thing is to look after you.
What are some of your tips for getting over a breakup? Leave a comment below!
All my love,